How to recognise your emotions
Posted Tue 1st Oct 19 - 2 mins read
It affects some of us more than others and some of us are better at controlling it than others but it's there in all of us.
It could be anything from the short term "put your school shoes on now!" rage to the long term negative self talk about how you feel about yourself because someone treated you badly.
It can all amount to the same thing: treating others negatively because you are going into a mindset that doesn't serve you and certainly doesn't allow you to rest your mind and feel contented with your lot.
So give it some thought:
Were you unintentionally rude to the guy at the coffee shop this morning for spelling your name wrong, because you're still feeling anger or anxiety for something going on in your life?
Can you figure out a way to channel the negative energy away before you bring down another person's vibe?
I always come back to journaling for stuff like this - keep reading for some helpful tips.
A few minutes spent writing down how I'm feeling and telling my journal how that person or situation how they upset me gets it out of my head and I find I don't have to carry it around with me.
Some days are better than others of course, our lives are a work in progress after all!
Sometimes we can learn lessons about ourselves from our children and I've recently learned something about emotions from my daughter.
I find it really interesting how my daughter's school put so much effort into emotions.
I'm guessing it's a curriculum thing?
My daughter is frequently coming out with comments about how she is feeling which can only be a good thing!
She is able to look inward, asses how she is feeling and then acknowledge it by verbalising it.
How many of us adults are able to do that???
Not only that, but she then makes an effort to solve the problem that is causing her to feel the emotion she just named.
This is where I think it's really important to guide her to find constructive methods of solving her problem rather than turning to destructive methods that only provide a temporary solution.
What do most of us grownups do when feeling sad or anxious or frustrated?
A common method is to numb the feelings with something that is just a temporary fix or do something reactive without thinking rather than doing something proactive.
We have a habit of avoiding our emotions when we should be looking inward, assessing our current state, verbalising and recognising what we are feeling and why.
We are then much better placed to take positive action and achieve a rested mind.
So today, take a few minutes to really look to yourself to find out how you are feeling and why.
What can you do to resolve these feelings in a proactive way?
Once you've done that, I've got a challenge for you: How many emotions can you write down in one go?
Hint: There are between 30 and 40.
I got to 27, see if you can beat that!
If you're ready to go a bit deeper into your emotions, my digital guided journal is now LIVE and you can access it right here in the site. It's currently FREE to use, so it's the perfect time to take it for a test drive - don't forget to let us know what you think!